Well, it's been over a year and a half since I had him served. It's been very stressful, but finally things are coming to a close. For one thing, I got a better lawyer who has my best interest in mind; right now she's negoiating with his lawyer to come to a reasonable settlement so we can stay out of court. So, there should be no reason we should go to court unless he just wants to beat his chest and vent his rage about how worthless I was as a wife and don't deserve anything. We'll see what happens.
He has the nerve to say that I stand outside his bedroom door every night and harass him. Can you believe it? He first accused me of waiting for him to get home and yelling as soon as he comes through the door that "I'm going to kill myself! I'm going to kill myself!" Now, I'm harassing him outside his bedroom door. Which is it?! I know what he's doing. He's saying this so he can carry out his plans to kill me and then cry self defense. I can't believe the extent he's going to just to get back at me and see me dead. But I'm putting my trust in Jehovah: I pray to Jehovah that this man doesn't get away with his muderous plot. That my daughters and I will be able to get as far away from this muderer as possible and never have to deal with him again. I pray to Jehovah that He doesn't allow this man to cause anymore destruction than he already has for 35 years; that his lies, his deceit, his murderous plans, the horrible things he's done in the past and continues to do now will be exposed for all to see. I mean he goes to the Kingdom Hall every week and learns about peace, goodness, and always being truthful, then he comes home and carries on the traits of his father, satan.
He's a gutless coward, and I can't wait to get away from him. I've been waiting for this moment all my married life, and it's just days away. If we go to trial, it'll be tuesday Oct.13, next week. I hope we don't, but if we do, one way or another, I'll finally be free of him. Thank Jehovah God Almighty!
At first when this started, I was stressed out; my poor daughters were stressed even more. But reliance on Jehovah has helped us to calm down and see this through with courage and strength. We're okay now. And we know Jehovah will see us through this with continued courage and strength. Thanks to Jehovah, we're going to be just fine!
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
Thursday, April 2, 2009
I'm Just Fine!
So, after that mediation debacle, my daughters and I have decided to start new, preferably in another state (hopefully California) I thought about it through and through: The stress of going to court to fight for what I deserve, putting my daughters through the stress, the continuous fighting, etc.. is just not worth it. If this house was like my old home, then I would go to court to fight for it. But this house is a piece of crap. The floors are buckling, all the windows need replacing (all the windows and doors have been taped to keep the constant barrage of insects and air from coming in) the carpet is filthy, the entire house inside and out needs a major makeover. No, this house is not worth stressing out over by having to go to court. So, I'm going to take the buyout and my daughters and I are going to buy one of our own. I know he thinks that he would have won by getting this house, but all he's getting is a wreck. Not to mention kids playing basketball in the court which takes away from the peace, and the Habitat for Humanity houses that are going to replace the nice forest in the back. He can have it!
I went to see another lawyer two weeks ago. Boy, was she a breath of fresh air. As soon as I can raise the money, I'm going to hire her. She was so enlightening, so knowledgeable. She took the lead and told me what she would do for me. I feel comfortable that she can stand up to the "Black Nazi's" lawyer and fight for me. Not like my current lawyer, who expects me to come up with a plan, to settle for living next door, to her exact words, "dirty mexicans", shows up late for meetings, or not show up at all, sits there without a clue, and tells me basically I'm kind of screwed. I'm short on time, so until then...
I went to see another lawyer two weeks ago. Boy, was she a breath of fresh air. As soon as I can raise the money, I'm going to hire her. She was so enlightening, so knowledgeable. She took the lead and told me what she would do for me. I feel comfortable that she can stand up to the "Black Nazi's" lawyer and fight for me. Not like my current lawyer, who expects me to come up with a plan, to settle for living next door, to her exact words, "dirty mexicans", shows up late for meetings, or not show up at all, sits there without a clue, and tells me basically I'm kind of screwed. I'm short on time, so until then...
Thursday, March 19, 2009
He's gonna start a fight!
So, we went to mediation. And guess what? It was a total waste of my time; that's two hours and $275 I'll never get back. What a debacle!! I don't know how he did it, but he had that mediator eating out of his hands: "he's just a maintenance man", "he doesn't make that much", "he had insurance until you went ballistic and canceled it", "listen, you started this ball rolling, this is reality", "he's done" (She tried to scare me into taking his piddly offer of a $12,000 buy out on the house, and $400 a month spousal support) Give me a break!!
He's done?!! I've been done, you overly-hair-dyed-old-hag. I wish I could have put her in her place, but I was so emotional and concentrating on the thought of losing the house and my life as I know it, that I couldn't think straight. Now I know better. Too bad we can't redo it, she'd get her nastiness handed back to her with a shot of you-know-where-to-stick-it to boot. I really regret that I wasn't stronger; but you live and you learn.
I'm seriously thinking about getting another lawyer. Everytime I talk to Ms. Tek, it's not reassuring. She doesn't have a clue about what's in my best interest; she has no strategy. She wants me to make plans, but what are hers? He has a cut-throat lawyer standing up for his best interest, but all she can say is: "try to find a job so they won't stand up in court and say you're lazy and lie around the house all day", "are you looking for work?" Why in the hell should I struggle looking for work when I worked hard all my life; put just as much sweat and tears into this life as he did!! I'm entitled to half of everything. If I go out and get a job, that would mean that he doesn't have to pay as much alimony; And I refuse to make it that easy for him. He's going to pay as much as I can get out of him.
My daughters and I are thinking seriously about our plans, whether or not to fight for the house, or find our own place in another state and start over. We really have a lot of thinking to do. Right now, I don't know what to do. I have an appointment with another lawyer next week. Hopefully, she's what I'm looking for and can afford.
Until next time...
He's done?!! I've been done, you overly-hair-dyed-old-hag. I wish I could have put her in her place, but I was so emotional and concentrating on the thought of losing the house and my life as I know it, that I couldn't think straight. Now I know better. Too bad we can't redo it, she'd get her nastiness handed back to her with a shot of you-know-where-to-stick-it to boot. I really regret that I wasn't stronger; but you live and you learn.
I'm seriously thinking about getting another lawyer. Everytime I talk to Ms. Tek, it's not reassuring. She doesn't have a clue about what's in my best interest; she has no strategy. She wants me to make plans, but what are hers? He has a cut-throat lawyer standing up for his best interest, but all she can say is: "try to find a job so they won't stand up in court and say you're lazy and lie around the house all day", "are you looking for work?" Why in the hell should I struggle looking for work when I worked hard all my life; put just as much sweat and tears into this life as he did!! I'm entitled to half of everything. If I go out and get a job, that would mean that he doesn't have to pay as much alimony; And I refuse to make it that easy for him. He's going to pay as much as I can get out of him.
My daughters and I are thinking seriously about our plans, whether or not to fight for the house, or find our own place in another state and start over. We really have a lot of thinking to do. Right now, I don't know what to do. I have an appointment with another lawyer next week. Hopefully, she's what I'm looking for and can afford.
Until next time...
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
And Guess What!!!
So, I had already made an appointment with another lawyer, when I got an email from my current one saying she had filed two motions in my behalf. It seems that she had been trying to get the "Black Nazi's" lawyer to get him to turn in the discovery papers and set up a time for mediation, but they would never get back in touch with her. So, she went to court and filed motions to compel. His lawyer sent him the motion papers in the mail, but he hasn't checked the mailbox yet. The court proceeding is Feb. 20th. (I'm so glad I don't have to appear) I hope this time I get the victory, and he doesn't walk out of court with more money in his pocket! Believe me, it could happen! So, it seems she's working in my behalf after all, and I guess I'll stay with her.
I'm so livid right now, it'll probably last way into next week. We're destitute: No jobs, no money in the bank, barely able to buy food and gas. And if we need anything else, like clothes and shoes, well too bad. I can't afford to buy meat (I've forgotten what chicken, hamburger, or even fish taste like) What does a twelve inch Sub taste like anymore? We keep getting job offers we can't take for religious reasons. On top of that, I have to deal with this Nazi's murderous attitude. He's stalling and dodging this case because he can't bear to part with half of his money, and other possessions; Things that I worked just as hard for, and am entitled to whether he, or any man, agrees with it or not. So, what is their usual solution? Take out insurance and have their wives killed so they won't have to lose or pay out anything.
I'm extremely angry because we keep begging and begging Jehovah for a decent job we can take, and yet we keep getting the ones we can't possibly work at. Everytime, we get our hopes up when the phone rings, then it's like the rug gets snatched right out from under us because it's a dead end. Like today: A job offer we couldn't accept. Surprise! Didn't see that coming! What now? How in the world am I going to pay our bills next month, and come up with the money to get our car tags that are due? Do you hear that, Jehovah? Do you think you can send us jobs we CAN take? Now there's a thought. I don't know, maybe it's me. After all, I am only human. Humans wouldn't send someone a job they couldn't accept over and over; We'd give them one they could. It sounds simple, right? But Jehovah takes something that we need desperately, and turns it into an extremely complex stressful ordeal. Dear God, what are you waiting on!!!
I'm done!!
I'm so livid right now, it'll probably last way into next week. We're destitute: No jobs, no money in the bank, barely able to buy food and gas. And if we need anything else, like clothes and shoes, well too bad. I can't afford to buy meat (I've forgotten what chicken, hamburger, or even fish taste like) What does a twelve inch Sub taste like anymore? We keep getting job offers we can't take for religious reasons. On top of that, I have to deal with this Nazi's murderous attitude. He's stalling and dodging this case because he can't bear to part with half of his money, and other possessions; Things that I worked just as hard for, and am entitled to whether he, or any man, agrees with it or not. So, what is their usual solution? Take out insurance and have their wives killed so they won't have to lose or pay out anything.
I'm extremely angry because we keep begging and begging Jehovah for a decent job we can take, and yet we keep getting the ones we can't possibly work at. Everytime, we get our hopes up when the phone rings, then it's like the rug gets snatched right out from under us because it's a dead end. Like today: A job offer we couldn't accept. Surprise! Didn't see that coming! What now? How in the world am I going to pay our bills next month, and come up with the money to get our car tags that are due? Do you hear that, Jehovah? Do you think you can send us jobs we CAN take? Now there's a thought. I don't know, maybe it's me. After all, I am only human. Humans wouldn't send someone a job they couldn't accept over and over; We'd give them one they could. It sounds simple, right? But Jehovah takes something that we need desperately, and turns it into an extremely complex stressful ordeal. Dear God, what are you waiting on!!!
I'm done!!
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
You weren't there; you never were!
Well, I just paid the last bill that will leave $17.00 or less in our bank account. That's all the money we have left. We're really going to be struggling now; we can barely afford food and gas, not to mention other necessities, as it is. But, we'll make it; my daughters and I will get through this. I'll just be glad when we do. I'm doing all I can not to break down; I'm emotionally spent and all I do is cry. I'm trying so hard to be strong for my daughters, but sometimes they see right through me. We apply for every job we can, but still nothing. We're destitute--broke.
I'm fed up with my current lawyer. She doesn't answer my emails or return my phone calls. How long does it take to type out "I'll get back with you soon" or something? She tells me to come to her office at a certain time, and everytime she's not there. She forgot all about our appointment last time; she was at the bank and then on her way home. That shows how important my case is to her. When we went to court for a spousal support hearing, I came out getting less money than when I went in. That black nazi gained $120, and all she could say was "thank you, your honor". I lost money to him, and all she could say was "thank you, your honor"?!! She didn't try to fight for me or anything. Now, I'm struggling on $150 a week, no money in the bank, and meanwhile, he's out spending money left and right, with an extra $120 in his pocket thank you. I'm done with her, so I made an appointment with another lawyer I hope can help me even though I have no money. I hope, and this is my biggest request, that we will bleed him dry.
We'll see...
I'm fed up with my current lawyer. She doesn't answer my emails or return my phone calls. How long does it take to type out "I'll get back with you soon" or something? She tells me to come to her office at a certain time, and everytime she's not there. She forgot all about our appointment last time; she was at the bank and then on her way home. That shows how important my case is to her. When we went to court for a spousal support hearing, I came out getting less money than when I went in. That black nazi gained $120, and all she could say was "thank you, your honor". I lost money to him, and all she could say was "thank you, your honor"?!! She didn't try to fight for me or anything. Now, I'm struggling on $150 a week, no money in the bank, and meanwhile, he's out spending money left and right, with an extra $120 in his pocket thank you. I'm done with her, so I made an appointment with another lawyer I hope can help me even though I have no money. I hope, and this is my biggest request, that we will bleed him dry.
We'll see...
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